Because most of “the signs” they tell you are garbage If you try to Google “how to know you’re in love,” you’re gonna have a bad time Because it’s mostly shit advice. Here’s a small sampling: “They’re always on your mind” This is infatuation. If someone’s “always” on your mind, you’re not focused on other Really Important Things. And that’s a problem. Real love fits into real life, rather than usurping it. It’s calm, not overwhelming. They’re your ‘everything’” Ditto. “You see them in your future” “When I imagined my future job/location/adopted dog, they were always in the background of my imagination helping me out with whatever I was doing. My future just didn’t really make sense without them around.” Well, I mean, damn. You fantasize long and hard enough, you can see anything in your future — like I could imagine moving to Switzerland to be a goat farmer. That doesn’t mean I should. The problem is that we’ve made “love” into a game of escapism, and measure potential partners by how
聽到這樣一個故事,一對戀人在民政局剛剛辦好結婚手續,就在要離開的時候,新娘突然在新郎面前跌倒在地上,這個時候,新郎不是馬上去扶起新娘,而是哈哈大笑,然後又補上一句:真是個蠢豬!
新娘聽到這句話後,沒有馬上發火,她說出了讓所有人都感到意外的一句話:咱們離婚吧!在新娘的堅持下,在辦完結婚手續三分鐘後,就匆匆地離了婚。
這件事,很多人認為只是一件小事,怎麼能和離婚扯到一起?
在我看來,這不僅僅是一件小事,婚姻中,往往都細節貫穿生活的全部。而女人最在乎的就是生活中的點點滴滴和細微的小事。
一生很長,在婚姻剛剛開始時,這個男人就表現出自己的冷漠和漠視對方,有這樣一個不確定的前提,必然有一個不確定的結果。這是這個女人當時的想法,而且又乾脆果斷做出這樣的決斷,無疑是對的。
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